Your Mental Health is Important.



Your mental health is important. Reiterating these words may appear pointless to some, but I cannot emphasize this enough. Your mental health is important.

These past several weeks: headaches throbbing due to the lack of water. Quiet coffee shop sessions featuring two introverts trying to start a conversation turned awkward. Four days in a row eating dinner skimpily. Lunches spent in solidarity without the company of friends. There are days I’d wake up feigning away exhaustion heavy as the feeling in my chest and just want the days to end as early as they’ve started. And yes, I’ve broke down crying multiple times. All I’ve been holding on to are the sparse moments with friends, snippets of volunteering and slam poetry and just laughing and crying and going through this perpetuating cycle.








Today, my footing has stepped into place. My college applications have been reigned in, I sent in scholarships, and perhaps I’m understanding what’s been going on in one of my toughest classes these past several weeks. I’ve talked to people fervently and visited friends, refracting different colors. My expressions are bright and iridescent so everyone can see the struggles. Here are reminders that’s good to be reminded every once in a while:

// It’s okay to say everything is not okay. Society tells us to dictate, to “suck it up, buttercup. Bottle it up.” I am telling you right now, this may be a great solution short term, but keeping your problems inhibited and not acknowledging them may make things worse. You have the choice of knowing what defines you, and what is weighing you down right now, know this does not. You have that choice. Let the armor fall, allow your skin to touch the air, however harsh it may be. Wrap yourself up in warm blankets fresh out of the dryer and just feel comfortable. Let go of the baggage. Go contact a friend or mentor and just hash out everything with them. 

// With that said, it’s okay to cry.I won’t rehash out this out, but if you’d like to hear my thoughts on the subject, there’s a post about it in the archives.

// There is no shame in having to drop events or itinerary to-dos. Come back and work at full capacity when you’re ready to do so. Doing things without your full best effort, while laudable, isn’t the best. In fact, just let all expectations go and just move through life allowing wiggle room to be surprised / shocked / out-of-schedule.

// Know that you are entitled to having free days to just relax. For me, those days consist of going out by myself to places with a lot of people, just basking in all of the chatter around me, and bringing something rejuvenating for me to do. That may be simple as visiting a book store or going out and walking around the woods, marveling at the leaves. Again, another post here.

// Lastly, take care of yourself. This is you. You may be fifteen or twenty, or perhaps an adult approaching their middle years. Maybe you’re even eight, but know this: you have only one body and one mind in this life, so take care of it. Don’t let stress overrun you. Drink water. Sleep well.





Perhaps a few may be tired about the same sayings coming out from my mouth, but they are universal. Struggles will always come around. I want to be real about the things that I go through. My classes may say ups equal the downs, and they’re right.

To days to be good to yourself.

41 comments:

  1. Thank you so much for this post...this has been a season of life for me when I am scared to admit my feelings sometimes and your points are really important. xoxox Will be praying for you...I know how tough these times are, senior year! *hugs* If you ever need someone to talk to or you need help never hesitate to email me. <3 :)

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    1. Feelings are such intimate things. I only opened up to one person about the tremendous length of the ordeal when so many people offered to talked to me... which just shows how much of a support system I have, which I’m deeply grateful for. It’s so important to find people to talk to and just vent everything, you know? Even though life has been much better now, that fear of things falling backwards still terrifies me. I’ll be praying for you as well, Anna. <3

      xoxo Abigail Lennah

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  2. I struggle with giving myself a break from work and stress. XD Though I am very disciplined with my sleep schedule. I have to get 8 1/2 hours of sleep or I cannot function. Though I could probably use a glass of water...

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    1. SAME. I wish I was as disciplined in my sleep schedule, as most of the time I just read and write before bed then proceed to think about everything from existence to mentally solving a Calculus problem in my head... it’s a problem! Props to you, Evangeline m’dear. xD

      xoxo Abigail Lennah

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  3. ^^^This post.

    I honestly teared up, this is amazing, thank you. <3

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    1. Thank YOU, Gray. And you’re most certainly welcome. <3

      xoxo Abigail Lennah

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  4. Such a good post, Abby, wow. I can so relate, and yet I struggle to do the things you've mentioned - I'm too hard on myself sometimes, and it's easy to feel like you're the only one who's struggling or that you're just 'being silly' when everyone around you doesn't seem to be going through the same stuff.

    Thank you for this post <3

    Amy @ A Magical World Of Words

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    1. I feel like our external factors in society have made us more pressured than ever. For example, several people in my Calculus class just ranted about college and how it’s hard to be getting scholarships and acceptance into schools, and that’s just school. It’s taken me most of high school to realize that people to go through the same problems, and while that has placed a damper on the rose-tinted spectacles I look through, it just makes the sense of alienation less.

      xoxo Abigail Lennah

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  5. This is all so true and your photography is so beautifully presented! I think I've found my new favourite blog.

    - Edie
    ediewritesthings.blogspot.com

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    1. D’aww, thank you, Edie!!! <333

      xoxo Abigail Lennah

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  6. YES! Mental health does matter. I am a huge believer in showing emotions so I cry all the time which is an odd thing but It helps get my feelings out so I am not bubbling over with emotions.

    Thank you for this post.

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    1. True! I find that if I just shove my emotions away, I become more irritable and just not that great of a person to hang out with. Crying is so therapeutic.

      xoxo Abigail Lennah

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  7. This post is so important and honest and true! Thank you for this. :)

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  8. UGHHHH

    Abby, your timing is wonderful. I admit, that introductory paragraph was me up until a few days ago.

    I thought I could handle grad school, but I came in a bad time of my life. I'm still dealing with restlessness, and other emotional turmoil from previous years. I've been a support team member for several members of my family that have been dealing with mild forms of depression for the past 2-3 years and the depression has spread to me. Now I'm forced to take a step back, get out of grad school, and actually think about what is best for me at this point.

    I bottle things all the time. You're right, it is a short-term solution. I bottled some things for years. It finally got to the point a few days ago where I would start crying if someone asked me how I was. That's when I knew that I had to get out of graduate school and face this emotional junk head on.

    When you're an adult, it's hard to take those days to relax. Particularly when the bills start racking up. And we wonder why the youth are so depressed....I wonder if half the problems would be solved if young people were given a little more official vacation. Like seriously, give us more than 24 hours to get acclimated to a new school before you shove us into classes (don't worry, college freshman get a week usually. Upperclassmen and graduate students aren't nearly as lucky though).

    Being an adult, they expect you to able to master your emotions and "work through things calmly and rationally." Let me tell you, when you're a female, that's difficult. Trying to stifle emotions in a female is like trying to stifle a sneeze. When I'm hurting, I cry. Cause I'm female. I think crying says how you feel about things much more than trying to be stoic about it.

    A lot of people say that our generation is emotionally weak. In some cases, I think that is true. But there is a legitimate bunch of junk being thrown at us without our consent: Degenerate media, high cost of college, political and moral strife, etc. I went bonkers in two months, living in immediate proximity to all of that. I can't imagine 2 years.....

    Catherine
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    1. Catherine. Oh my gosh. Reading through the ordeals you’re facing in grad school makes my heart hurt, and m’dear, I am reaching out to you and am just going to envelop you through a hug, okay? *hugs*

      I understand the struggle of being a support system for people in our lives for are depressed. Several of my friends disappeared for several years that I would never hear from until years later, because it got so bad they had to leave our town. You want to be there for them, and you should, but when the emotions become too intense, well...

      What annoys me SO much is how people talk about how you shouldn’t cry and how crying is a sign of weakness. Crying and being a damsel in distress does NOT equal people being weak, but people still took it like that and have made so many girl characters have to be able to fight. I’m not saying girls aren’t capable of fighting, because believe me, most of my friends are feisty and will engage in a fight if it comes down to it, but crying in itself is just a sign of strength. By crying, you are acknowledging that a problem does exist, which is a whole lot more than just running from our problems.

      I do agree that a lot of external factors have made us incredibly stressed, as a society. Take the example of getting into college, for example. College (while I’m excited for it) just has a hefty load of stress factors involved. Some people get extremely anxious around new settings and it can trigger panic attacks. You’re thrown into a situation where everything is new and overwhelming with building blocks as the world says, “Now build a sustainable electricity making system.” Don’t know why that was the first thing to come to mind, but the point being— there is little time to adjust. There’s no tiptoeing into a lake; we’re made to go jump in and become immersed.

      I’ll be praying for you, m’dear. And if you need someone to talk to, you know where to find me.

      xoxo Abigail Lennah

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  9. This is so true! Giving your body and mind basic care helps us enjoy life. I know personally that when I do not get a proper night's sleep or am dehydrated, I feel out of control. Doing simple small things like going to the bookstore or taking a rest day honestly mean the world. Thank you for this reminder! :)

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    1. True. For instance, today I’m finally replying to all of my comments which I haven’t done in awhile and just caught up being productive. However, I’ve been injecting alternating hours of just relaxing just to not burn out. Going to the bookstore, visiting a cafe or a museum... there’s a lot of place to go to. But there’s a lot of things to be grateful for that we take for granted. Sometimes we just need a day away just to see those, too. ^.^

      xoxo Abigail Lennah

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  10. THIS POST IS EVERYTHING. <3 You are so amazing, Abby. Thank you for this. Thank you for sharing your words. You got this. <3

    xx Kenzie

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    1. KENZIE DEAR THANK YOU SO MUCH <3 *fist bump*

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  11. Yes Abby. Thank you for this.

    I'm reading this early in the morning where my aim goal for the day was trying to find a cute photo from a party last night to post on Instagram and then feel stressed if a certain girl didn't commented 'ly' on it or delete it if it doesn't get x amount of likes in x amount of minutes.

    Now I do not care at all about that. I want to see my family, who I've been so distant from lately. I want to care about myself and relax. I want to whatever today without worrying a friend might see me. I want to set myself aside some proper time to go for a walk and read.

    In the last couple weeks, I, with two other close friends, split apart from my main 'group' of friends. It wasn't messy, there was no argument, they didn't even ask to go, and none of us wanted to leave. I'm not sure what happened but in short I drifted away from 6 of my closest friends in the space of 1 day for no reason. Yesterday, I went to one of those girls' party (and was v happy I'd been even invited!) and for the first time, I really did properly wish I was still one of 'those' girls and still part of their 'group'. I know this is absolutely nothing compared to what some people are going through but it's hard.

    So it's been tough lately and these are the words I needed to hear. Thank you Abby.

    Also, I'll be thinking of you, and hope your life feels better soon:)

    www.whatlexieloves.blogspot.com

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    1. Sorry for any parts that don't make sense, as I said, I'm writing this early in the morning:)

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    2. This, and Catherine’s comments, just made my heart reach out for you two. I’ve been thinking about you and what’s been going on in your life since I got this comment; I just hadn’t had the chance to respond back. Your situation is something I’ve watched happen and something that I’ve done, too, and it is not the easiest thing to do.

      I get so caught up in “likes” and worrying about what photo to post, and for me to call it stupid would be hypocritical since it’s something subconsciously I worry about. On my Instagram, unlike most people I know, I don’t have a theme to my feed. It’s just not something I do— whatever the photo presents, I want to present it organically without worrying whether it matches the color scheme of all of the other posts I’ve put up.

      Some parts of what you wrote were confusing, but I got the gist. >.< I don’t know why you broke away from the group you were a part of, but honestly, I respect whatever the reasons behind your decision were. I don’t know what caused you to feel like you’re alienated for your friends, but know this: you make your own decisions, and if you think this is the best decision for you after looking at it from a whole picture perspective, then by all means, you’ve made the right decision. You’re entitled to spending time with your family. You’re entitled to read. You are entitled to have rest days. So give them to yourself.

      Just because you broke away from your main group of friends doesn’t mean you still can’t talk to them or have a good time with them, though. I see friends I’ve lost closeness with and when I do see them, it’s still fun. But like the saying goes, sometimes, when you let go of people, new people fall into place.

      I hope things have been going well for you lately and over this past month, Lexi. <3

      xoxo Abigail Lennah

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  12. Yes, yes, yes <3 You're so wise, Abby. Recently school and life in general has just been kind of a hassle, and your words are so timely. I so often forget to take care of myself (but I also procrastinate a lot, haha xD), so I've been trying to get back into a more productive and balanced lifestyle. Awesome post!

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    1. Don’t procrastinate taking care of yourself (although I do get where you’re coming from since I do the same sometimes xD)! As we get older, self-care and its value grow so much. I hope school and life go back to normal and everything gets better, Autumn! I believe in you!

      xoxo Abigail Lennah

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  13. Ugh this post is SO important. I let myself get dragged under last year and I still have the scars--physical, emotional, damaged relationships. I'm still putting the pieces back together. Hopefully I know now to just give myself a break in the first place!

    Hailey
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    1. It honestly stinks that the worse thing affected by us not taking care of ourselves is our relationships, because a lot of times the people on the other end are our support system and they are all that we have. Healing is a slow process and sometimes painful, but hey— at least we’re putting everything back together. ^.^

      xoxo Abigail Lennah

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  14. This is a beautiful post! Really helpful.

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  15. This post is so raw, so beautifully and heart wrenchingly honest that I had to sit for a while after reading and just....absorb what I had read. This post is so poignant and true. Beautifully put, and I honestly cannot applaud you enough for writing this. I know uploading it mustn't have been easy.

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    1. Yes, uploading this wasn’t easy. I was TERRIFIED. A lot of my personal posts that shed light on all of the hardships I go through aren’t easy, because it’s basically sharing a piece of yourself for the entire world to see, and it’s terrifying. But it’s worth it. It’s good to vent and reevaluate everything in words. Thank you, Sunset.

      xoxo Abigail Lennah

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  16. This is such a great post. I completely agree with not letting all your feelings get bottled up. If I don't tell someone or write my feelings down, I feel like my brain is exploding. Thank you for writing this. I hope you feel better!

    xx Bubbles

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    1. Same! I write down my feelings (thus all of my notebooks and my blog) but sometimes, it’s more satisfying to find another outlet. In the winter time, I like to go out into the woods area near my house and throw snowballs at the trees. I have been feeling better, but the battle isn’t won yet; then again, when is the battle really over?

      xoxo Abigail Lennah

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  17. This is so true. Life isn't always easy, but it does get better. So sorry you've been feeling weighed down!

    By the way, this is Pip, from Pip and Lolly. I just started a new blog and sent you an email explaining all.

    ~ Ella Marie

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    1. Ahhh! Ella! I’m so sorry for not replying to your email, but I will make it up to you. I’ll email you in a bit. ^.^

      xoxo Abigail Lennah

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  18. Thanks for this - there's a little less weight on my shoulders. I'm sorry to hear that you're not feeling well. :( It seems we're going through something similar. Lately it's been hard to see clearly, and I do have a tendency to bottle up everything and pretend I'm completely fine. But you're right, it's all going to hit me at once if I don't let it go. Very thoughtful post Abby. :)

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    1. I dislike how emotions sometimes clouds our judgement— it causes us to make rash decisions that may not be the best at the moment of the situation, which could make things worse. Funny how we’re both on the opposite sides of the world and still go through the same problems! It just shows how much everyone goes through the same things, despite thinking we’re eternally alienated.

      xoxo Abigail Lennah

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  19. "It's okay to say everything is not okay. [...] Let the armor fall, allow your skin to touch the air, however harsh it may be. Wrap yourself up in warm blankets fresh out of the dryer and just feel comfortable. Let go of the baggage."
    This is so beautifully written and I definitely needed to read something like this. Thank you so much for writing this and for sharing. <3

    Joanne | With Risa: A Lifestyle Blog

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    1. Joanne, you’re welcome! And thank you for reading and commenting; it made my day. ^.^

      xoxo Abigail Lennah

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