20 April 2015

The Hard Truth About Blogging


"Morning, why do you post things differently compared to other blogs?" This was a recent question which someone had asked me a while back. For some time, I pushed the question aside until I read one certain post and gained a little more perspective. Today I will be my thoughts with you. Yes, this is one of my more serious posts and I know that probably not even half of my readers would comment, but you will understand why I am doing after reading it all.

I've been writing on average about two posts a week ever since I arrived home from my Disney World trip. The two posts would end up being entirely different from each other; one of the posts would be writing and the other would often be thoughts, my life, or photography, and out of all of the categories I post, "Thoughts" is the least popular one, probably because of the downing serious tone I make.

I'm not always a serious person, and to people who know me in real life, it may have seemed like it at first when I met them. But when I'm out with friends "in the real world", some people in my life call it, I'm honestly not as serious. I sing out loud in public at the most inappropriate times, and when I try to play charades I always associate what I am acting out with yoga movements. (My Ancient Civilization teacher warned me to not to hit or drop something while doing this.)


I'm a weird kid, but I don't mind. It is better to be weird and unique even by just a teensy fraction, than normal but just ordinary.

Here's the thing though: when I started blogging, my goals were to get my voice out and to potentially inspire someone, a sort of motivation that a dreamer would have. That goal has, and still is, being reached today, but I notice that I get less but more meaningful comments on my thought posts compared to the plentiful but simple comments on other posts. And that's when a tough thought comes in:

Do you value quantity or quality? (And when I mean quality, that doesn't necessarily mean DSLR gorgeous photos. I mean something deeper within that.)

If you're like me, you would want both, but the decision is more complicated than that. The two won't always balance each other out. The decision suffers Goldilocks syndrome: too hot, too cold, and just right.

There was a blogger from the last of the tight knit blogging communities, as she tend to call it, who wrote about how the blogging community's fire has nearly gone out, how now we aren't writing, we are just sharing; how we are now leaving small comments than huge thoughts on blog posts, and that's only a summary of it. I won't link her blog, since it's been awhile since she has posted and the fact that she has mixed feelings about blogging now.


I was deeply affected, in a good way, and so I decided to contact the blogger and they have replied back, and the insight that they gave me, in all of the messy shebang of words (which I love completely; order within disorder is my sort of thing sometimes) was very deep. Finally, I understood.

It's easy to lose sight of the reasons you originally wanted to do something because you are so caught up in reasons that you never realized had existed before. It reminds me of the song "Top of the World" by Greek Fire; it sings about how this person seems like they have everything they ever wanted in the world but in reality they don't. The intentions in which you once had are now being clouded by the thought of "More."

I envy new bloggers only by a small fraction. I know that envy is bad, but  they have it easy: they are new and young, trying to make a name for themselves in the blogging world. They have so many new ideas and aspirations for what they want to do, and most of all, they are the one's most resistant to the urge of wanting a huge gain of followers. I constantly visit so many new bloggers' blogs and they always ask me, "How do you get more followers?"


The answer is: There is no guarantee formula that will get you followers at a rapid pace. There really isn't. Ultimately though, did you not start blogging because it was your choice to do so I the first place, for the fun and the freedom? We all started with quality. Now we crave for quantity. I shall quote at some of the advice the blogger of the last blogging community has given to me which I think you should all read:

"You in the general sense as in any blogger shouldn't care too much about their numbers, but also you specifically because of your personality, because the people following your blog will be like you and you'll have those deep connections with your readers and that will satisfy you. It should go without saying but i don't know you so this could be totally wrong, but that's just kind of the vibe I'm getting. If you work at creating those deep connections, your blog will be completely satisfying to you even if you never get 10,000 followers. Hope that makes sense...?"

She also said to go for something different. Some days I have to admit I am guilty of dumping photos, but or these summer months I am going to strive to create something more for the raw but deep authenticity to shine through. You can kind of think of it as, "Art is only true of art when the creator feels the emotion too."


So, this summer I will be striving to write posts that will not just satisfy you all, but posts that will satisfy me too. I'm glad to say that I will be collaborating with some of the most talented people I know; you'll see some of our posts during June and July.

Let's try to create something new, something different, something innovative, raw, and authentic. Because we as writers, bloggers, and photographers, are capable of much much more.

47 comments:

  1. I get you. I understand what you're dealing with. And I'm dealing with it as well.
    But let's keep blogging. Let's continue to persevere. We're gonna get the quality right, get the quantity right. We're gonna keep going.
    And, if I'm being honest, your blog rocks. Oh, + I'm a weird kid as well. We'll get on marvelously.

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    1. I think the thing about blogging is that there are just some problems that all bloggers face in general and after reading the blogger's post about it (you know, the blogger in which I wrote about above) I knew that this problem must have been happening a lot.

      Blogging is dying, and it is kind of sad thing. Not a lot of people do it; it's a rather uncommon form of social media or form of expression, whatever you wish to call it, and even more so it feels as if the community has been deteriorating. But we have to keep going on strong. And you know what the best part about blogging is? The blogging world is all composed of the weird ones-- the rebels, the misfits, the wallflowers, the poets, geniuses, revolutionaries. We are the recyclers hoping to turn our trash into something beautiful, and it's pretty much my favorite occupation in the world. Let's keep going, shall we?

      xoxo Morning

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  2. My blog posts seemed to vary dramatically, so I took steps to find a direction for my blog. I hope things work out for you as they did for me. I get what you mean by wanting to inspire; I personally prefer thoughtful and fully-fleshed posts to photography (although I love both). Your blog is wonderful, and I can't wait to see those collabs! :)

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    1. Yeah, I remember reading Sophia's blog (Someplace in the Midst) and I remember her doing a post about how we should kind of figure out what our blogs are about. The problem with full-fleshed thoughtful posts is that it's a risk; not everyone wants to read them, and they can potentially offend someone. Next school year I will write more thought provoking posts. As we grow up we will often end up bumping into really weird encounters and it's sometimes nice to write them. The collabs will end up being a tad less serious than what I've written here but hopefully they will inspire all the same.

      xoxo Morning

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  3. I'm so proud of you, Morning. This is something I had to learn for myself the hard way as well. It got bad. I felt as if my blog were suffocating me. All I wanted was to please other people. I was reading all these other blogs with hundreds of followers, and I got discouraged. I had to give up blogging for awhile before I gained some clarity for how I envisioned my blog. Yes, it is nice to have a following of people who love your writing, but in the end, I don't want to write something fluffy or something that isn't me just to please my readers. I want myself to be proud of what I write. I don't want to dread blogging, I want to love it, just like I did when I started my first bog three years ago.
    This is an awesome post! I can't wait to see what you come up with this summer :)

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    1. I don't want to dread blogging, either. In fact, nearly last summer I had to do the exact same thing that you did, giving up on blogging (well, I was going to just place my blog on private and reprioritize). I think that the number of followers and being authentic is an issue that should be called out upon a lot more, because the amount of response that I got today has shown that this issue is quite a wide spread one. Authenticity should end up being one of the first things that we should think about when we blog, right? ^.^ I'm so glad to hear from you; you have a lot of thoughts on the topic, and I love hearing what other people think.

      xoxo Morning

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  4. I don't run a writing blog so I can't even pretend to know about this.But what I do know is that I like to read quality over quantity.I haven't been following your blog for a long time but some deep purposeful posts here have caught my eye and I like your photographs they are always so amazing.As for people not leaving big and meaningful comments is usually because they're really self involved.Also that you must have been blogging for a while now and your reader usually of your age.They're growing as you are and they might also be getting busy with their lives and they probably are trying to do the best they can (I don't know if that made any sense).
    PS : Love the flower photographs :D

    Neal Kind
    Daily Diaries

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    1. I read your blog, and you are right-- we do not blog about the same variety of topics. But at least we've got something in common with the struggles of followers and whatnot. I get the thing about being self-involved when it comes to commenting; I'm not complaining and trying to say, "Hey, followers, comment more meaningful things!" What I am say is is that I would love to have a conversation with my readers, but when you only have one sentence responses it is very hard to chat with them. I do agree with you, all the way.

      xoxo Morning

      (P.S. Thank you! Can you tell which flower photo is the real one and which one is the artificial? There is a difference!)

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    2. Top one are real aren't they?And the one at the bottom are artificial?Both look really convincing to me though :P
      I get wanting to chat with your readers in comments I have a couple of readers I usually have a casual chat of a couple of comments and those are my favourite bloggers and followers.They're a big reason why I feel good about blogging :)

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  5. I feel like a lot of people try to push the message, "Blog for yourself, not other people!" And in a sense, that's true: you should be blogging about what you want to blog about, not what you feel others want you to blog about. But also, you created a blog so others could read it. If all bloggers truly "Blogged for themselves" why would they create a blog and not simply keep a private journal? No, part of the experience of blogging is knowing you have an audience, however big or small, reading what you put out there. I think it's good to try to find a balance between what others will read and what you have fun writing.

    Anyway, not sure if my little rant totally connected to your topic, but I'm excited to see your new posts, and keep on reading.

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    1. Funny, the girl that I contacted whose post affected me in a good way said that a lot of people said that they would attempt to do that exact thing, but never actually acted upon it. Actions do speak louder than words. And, honestly, your response sounds a lot like the girl's, especially when it came to the blog versus the private journal. ^.^ The fun in blogging does somewhat come from having an audience, but when the audience starts to make you second guess yourself and turn your blog into something that other people would love but not you, well, that's an entirely different story. Don't worry; your rant made perfect sense! I'm glad you are excited for the new posts for the summer; I am, too!

      xoxo Morning

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  6. This is such an important topic for bloggers...this balance between blogging for yourself and for others. It's so easy to get caught up in the numbers and the chaos that we lose sight of why we first started. We lose sight of what we first loved about this whole thing.

    So, thanks for this post. I needed it. ♥

    xoxo

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    1. You haven't been blogging as much as I have but I'm glad that you have some insight on this. Numbers shouldn't matter; it sometimes makes me aggravated when people have a social media account with a thousand followers and all that's posted are selfies. It's just selfies... Well, the world is weird. And yes, yes, yes, losing sight of what we first loved doing something; the point and solution is to stay grounded, but in this world that we live in, it is very difficult to do that exact thing. I am glad this post has helped you; it means a lot to hear that. <3

      xoxo Morning

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  7. I personally try not to care about the numbers. When I feel really bad about just having a handful after seeing other blogs with 100s and 200s, I just go scroll through my own blog and sit there and think "this is amazing. I'd follow myself if I could. Too bad other people just don't see this awesomeness. Well, I'm just going to write for myself then!"
    And that's what i do when I feel like I've lost track of blogging. ^^.
    Good to know I'm not the only one.
    the-emo-wolverine-writes.blogspot.com

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    1. I try so hard to not cry about the numbers, too. My first year blogging I only had fifteen followers (who I loved and commented on every literal post that they had), and when I see new blogs that have been blogging for several months with a numerous amount of followers, I'm like, "Um, whoa. I must be blogging pretty badly for something like this to happen to me." Ultimately, I learned that it wasn't my fault. I'm glad that you have such a great mindset when those thoughts begin to eat at your brain, Catalina! I wish I had that kind of willpower.

      xoxo Morning

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  8. Lovely post Morning!

    And, can I tell you something. You have inspired me! If I was to choose a blogger who'd inspired me, it would be you hands down. Your words are so, wow!

    - www.whatlexieloves.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you, Lexie! But honestly, a place I get inspiration is from other bloggers too (and don't be surprised when I say I get inspiration when I read your posts on your blog; it's an honest fact)! :D

      xoxo Morning

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  9. Wow, some really good thoughts here. Ultimately this is why we do anything, not just blogging--for the sake of building relationships, telling the truth, and worshiping God by doing both of those things.

    My blog is only a recent thing, and I definitely started into it with the wrong idea, but thankfully God righted me in that quickly with a simple, "Will you give me this blog?" I was reluctant, but I'm glad I did, because I haven't regretted anything I've posted and I feel like it's doing something important in both my life and those of my readers (the few that I have). Important, but small, and that's something else I have to accept--that it's the thousand little things in our lives that shape us for good (or evil).

    Thanks for posting this; it was thought-provoking and a good reminder. :-)

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    1. I'm so glad to hear that you have learned this early on, and I guess that it it would be better that way than hitting the obstacle sometime later. :) I've recently reading this book and one of the themes it spoke of was how people end up losing sight of what they originally wanted to earn, and I think that it is, if not, one of the biggest themes that everyone from different stand points call all relate to, and we should strive to change that in our actions. Thank YOU, my dear, for reading this. Writing and posting something like this can often be a risk because it can either be immensely popular or the backfiring opposite but I am happy many agree and have thoughts about this, too.

      xoxo Morning

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  10. I can totally relate to this. Blogging is hard, I think every blogger would agree. It's also hard to keep that fresh new to blogging touch. I Love your blog, you have a talent for writing and inspiring people. Don't let the world get you down, keep you chin up:) -Bethany!

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    1. Thank you, Bethany, for your sweet words and encouragement. There are some things out here in this world in which many can relate to, and authenticity is an example of such a thing. I have written a post like this several months ago but I need a constant reminder in my life to keep going.

      xoxo Morning

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  11. I so relate to this! Sometimes I have to take a moment and remember to be myself in everything I do...even blogging!

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    1. Isn't the main reason why we want to do something often comes down to something that we may want for ourselves? This idea that I just mentioned in the previous sentence can either be applied in a good or bad way-- the goal is to keep our sights clear and our actions real. :D

      xoxo Morning

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  12. You have really inspired me!

    I do myself believe that the blogging community MAY be dying out a little bit, but I also strongly believe (a lot more than the other thing) that with even just a little bit of effort, we can get that fire roaring into a lively flame again!

    I can seriously relate to this a lot.

    I'm sure every blogger will agree that blogging is quite a commitment, as Bethany L. said!

    I love your blog so much!

    You are so inspiring, lovely! You and your blog never for a second fail to make me smile and feel inspired!

    You're a lovely person, Morning!

    Keep it up!

    Miss Internet xoxo

    (P.S. Sorry for the post-length comment!)

    (Double P.S. Am I the only one that kind of cried when they read this? xoxo)

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    1. Haha, did you find the post of the blogger that I mentioned? It seems like you are using the same metaphors and analogies as she did! You never fail to make me smile either; in fact, I think that the new bloggers have an advantage and the power to create the change to start up blogging again. Learn from the old bloggers' mistakes and grow stronger from them. You've got as much power as I do to inspire people so don't be afraid. Don't be afraid to be real and be true. I hope to see more from your posts. :)

      xoxo Morning

      (P.S. You teared up? What for? :) )

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  13. I think we all need to hear this more often! Good job.
    I've been having some writers block that I'm trying to get past and just begging myself to think of something to write. This post sorted out my thoughts in the meantime!!

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    1. Writers block is the worst, and people often don't know this but I end up getting writer's block as well. One of the worst things is that because in social media there is tons of post and reporting and reusing of images it can often be hard to find inspiration in the world. Go out and take a hike, go to youth group and whatnot, disconnect to connect and grow. I can't wait to see what you post next, Lizzie; keep up the amazing work!

      xoxo Morning

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  14. Morning, this is all very true. It's so important to NOT blog only for other people. You've kind of got to think of it as a diary/scrapbook, ...that other people are allowed to read. Does that make sense?

    BTW, your fun posts are great, but your thought posts are amazing too!!!

    We ARE definitely capable of more. I can't wait to work with you, and, yes, let's light our blogging community on FIRE! (Kay, I know that was cheesy, but I mean it anyway. :))



    Amelie {Contented Perfectionist - ameliebarham.com}

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    1. The scary part can be that since blogs are like an open public scrapbook others can judge you-- part of the reason why when I started blogging I decided to go by a screen name and only tell a few people in real life that I blog. I feel like I'm doing tons of serious moored post so I will back off just a tiny bit but the collaboratives will be great. This summer, let's light the blogging community on fire! :D

      xoxo Morning

      (P.S. Several days ago I sent you a message about the collaboration post.... Did you get it?
      (P.P.S. I wish you and Sneha luck and hope that you two get into the Summit! You both deserve it!)

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  15. I remember seeing a blog post similar to this a long time ago... Blog for Yourself? It's so true. When I began blogging, all I cared about was having fun. Now, I still try to have as much fun as possible with my blog, but I worry about not posting enough. I'm starting to realize that as long as it makes me happy, I should post whatever I want. To be honest, we're all AMAZING bloggers and AMAZING people. We shouldn't let numbers define us... we're not Instagrammers! We're bloggers! I love all your posts on your blog, and I try to comment on as many as I can.

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    1. I did write a post about the exact same thing last July but I felt like the idea needed to be revisited and well fleshed out more. You can't just say something which you say to believe but not act upon or live by it. I know you haven't been posting much on your blog due to school and what not, but I am so proud of you that you are blog for pure enjoyment rather than the numbers! :) That's the number one goal! And you are right about us not being Instagrammers! Is that even a word? I have an Instagtam account but a personal one for people I know in real life and I only have 60 some followers, and there are people with over 500 followers but with only five posts. It is insane! Go blogging!

      xoxo Morning

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  16. As a new blogger, I may not understand this as much as others, but it did remind me of something that I've actually been struggling with, the hunt for followers. Because, really, twenty people who really connect with a blog outweighs three hundred people who only glance at your content thrown at them. This is a delicate balance, the balance between writing for yourself and writing also to help others, but it comes down to helping yourself while showing others how to follow your lead. Because, whether we like it or not, we bloggers are leaders, and you led well today!

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    1. It's scary when people call me a leader, because I dislike the attention and responsibilitye hich ends up bring thrown at my face sometimes, but thank you. The balance is hard and delicate but yes, I would rather have a small number of followers who are loyal and genuine than a bajillion followers who barely comment. :) I suppose that today is a great day in the blogging world. ^-^

      xoxo Morning

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  17. Wow...this post was so amazingly relatable. I've often wondered how those other bloggers got to where they are, and then I start to feel a little worried about my own blog. I'm blogging for them, but most importantly for me. Thank you for this post, Morning. You just made me reconsider a lot of things, and like you said, connection is key in blogging. <3

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    1. Autumn, don't be worried about your own blog. It is one of the more real in aspects of blogging and that is something that I do admire. Connection is always key; it something that needs to be applied into an artistic action and luckily, I think blogging is an art!

      xoxo Morning

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  18. This is SUCH a great post. I need to constantly remind myself to blog for myself and not for others, especially lately because I have a little bloggers block. Thank you do much for the reminder!
    Amy xx

    Little Moon Dragon

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    1. Thank you, Amy, for reading this post. Sometimes we have to step back and reconsider what is important and what is not... I hope you break your blogging block! It stinks worse than rotten blue cheese, but it is something I believe and cheer that you will pass.

      xoxo Morning

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  19. This is so true! When I first started blogging, I posted a lot of things, and I really enjoyed it. Now, I constantly worry when I'm writing a post. And, I end up deleting most of the posts that I write. I worry that I'm not posting enough (I really am not, it's been such a long time!) I worry that I've been blogging for a year, but I only have 37 followers. When you blog for yourself, it's something that you truly enjoy! Blogging has become a chore for me, rather than something I enjoy, now. This post helped a lot. I think I just need think about why I started blogging in the first place.

    Great post!

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    1. While you may be posting inconsistently and not as much as you want to, it's not bad; not a bad thing at all! A lot of bloggers that I met in 2013 did the exact same thing, but only because they needed to reprioritize. Sometimes, we need to step back away from everything and reconsider as to what we are doing in order to rekindle the love that we had for it. Thank you, Jollygirl! It's nice to hear from you though you may be busy with other aspects of life. ^.^

      xoxo Morning

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  20. Enjoyed the beautiful flower photos--and I wouldn't mind trying that desert! Your post was very thought-provoking, and I liked it. Being different is a wonderful thing.

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    1. Oh my...did I say desert? I mean dessert! It's hard to find one that isn't good!

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    2. Thank you, Bethany! One of my teachers has said to the class that if you are weird and different, that's a good thing, probably due to the fact that you aren't normal, and normal is just plain and ordinary. Haha, that's all right that you misspelled "dessert"; I have a friend who I would always call out on their spelling and eventually I got used to it. ^.^

      xoxo Morning

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  21. When I first started out blogging, numbers meant a lot to me. I used to worry all the time on how come others have more and why I have less. But it isn't like that anymore. Those who genuinely like your blog will read it and even if it's just a handful of readers that connect and can relate with what you have to say then that's just wonderful!

    -Kathie K
    A Sea Change

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    1. It is! If I had to think of my blog image, I would prefer to being close like a coffee shop near a fireplace (can both things happen at the same time? Haha) with friends rather than a convention with people I know but don't know well. ^.^ I'm glad you were able to figure out and realize followers aren't always that important.

      xoxo Morning

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  22. Amazing post that dessert looked so good! im a new blogger and numbers do mean a lot to me if you keep blogging but no one read ur posts then u might as well give up and start writing in ur diary!! ( ik i have very nagative thoughts) but seriously ive learned that blogging is harder then it looks or sounds i mean i just started like wat 2or 1 weeks ago and i should probs be happy that i atleast got 3 people to look at my posts and leave a comment but still i guess numbers sometimes do matter just a little anyways awesome post and really cool blog btw my names laiba do u think u could check out my blog!

    thnx laiba
    http://2cool4skool2002.edublogs.org

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    1. I'm not saying that numbers are bad, but when you create your blog and it grows big, it can sometimes turn into a community and if not a community, then a very tight-knit group relationship between the blogger and the readers. Blogging isn't all about popularity sometimes, but I do understand where you come from when you mean if no one reads it, they should start a private diary instead. Thank you, Laiba! I will check out your blog now. :D

      xoxo Morning

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  23. I actually used to care about numbers so much as a blogger, bit now I just focus more on what I want to write than what would get me more numbers.

    The best part? That actually got me MORE numbers.

    I used to have another blog (I deleted it) and I have learned from that one to write what best suits YOU, not your numbers .

    ps - I nominated you for the Liebster Award on my blog. Hope you enjoy doing it!

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