Thoughts & Opinions Grow, As Do People


Hello, friends! As I embark on my fifth year of blogging and glance through one of my old posts, I stumbled along one of the older posts from my youth entitled Beauty vs. Pretty. For those who are unfamiliar with the post, there are several mentions about the difference between the two. While I'm sure the post meant to come out good-natured from my seventh grade self, I couldn't help but cringe for two reasons. First, the post is ancient and the first several months of one's blogging experience is rocky, but the other aspect so negatively charged is the close-mindedness presented. In the post, I discussed how we shouldn’t use make-up.

If seventh grade me met senior me, by goodness have the tables turned. In fact, I cringe at how short sighted by original post was because it was so narrow-minded. My opinions of cosmetics have changed-- while I still refrain from using it frequently, I do not look down condescendingly as middle school me did. Makeup can be a way of self-expression instead of a means to solely cover up one's insecurities in their appearance. In fact, those who use makeup the most? They are brilliant when it comes to face painting children's faces. They are willing to help others who do not know the entire means of applying eyeliner in theatre productions, and there is substance underneath all the layers of foundation and base.

I bring this up because we're currently in a world where the mentality is always, "I'm right, you're wrong, and nothing will ever change our mindset." We're stubborn in this way. We flock to people to think like ourselves because we see ourselves in them, and echo chambers provide no resistance to our thoughts, therefore, we must be right. It's so evident in our environments. There is always a small charge which unleashes itself the moment it contacts friction, especially pertaining to subjects such as racial discrimination, the LGBTQIA+ community, and gender inequality, to name a few. Let two opposing sides conflict and let the finger pointing begin. Let individuals pitch themselves against one another and former relationships succumb and nullify until someone comes out victorious and flaunts the spoils.


In a sense, this was my younger self. I never bolstered the notion of makeup being truly negative because little form of opposition came across my way, but what did I know? I was a seventh grade child who interacted with those in her school's Shakespeare theatre group and partook in book competitions, and the number of individuals involved in such activities limited the pool I interacted with in real life. I was inside an echo chamber in a place it was easier to accept some things without questioning or coming to my own conclusion as to why I believed it other than that opinion being what others believed. Not to mention, I spent hours on the NaNoWriMo and Discovery Girls forums around that age so there wasn't much exposure. Interaction with one sanction of makeup happened on the academic level, for six and a half hours a day.

It's not enough time for a person to see the other side.

Seeing the other side was nonexistent, until the day in the eye doctor when my folks asked if I wanted to audition for a theatre show, and the rest is history. I met new people, and while I felt off-kilter, I found myself bathed in diversity. Diversity can mean those who have different cultural expectations down to those who may even have an unconventional family structure and there is nothing, nothing wrong with this whatsoever. Even in other groups, like the teen art studio, I find myself in the midst of others with starkly different views, yet the contrast enthralls me. I meet with individuals outside of town with years of experience to home schoolers who cannot carve using a scooper or Exact-o knives yet can run down how to set up cameras towards a perfect composition. There are those who just recently moved from California or Laos, and this is just all amazing.


Diversity is the spice of life. I love chatting with individuals from different walks of life and I'm incredibly grateful to live in one of the most diverse places in the United States to hear of those journeys opposite of mine.

There are topics I may not fully comprehend, but I love to listen to discussion from both sides, whether the topic is menial or very high radar, just to see both perspectives. While I do not advocate shouting out at others in an intense argument and would refrain from engaging with such a heated fervor behind their words, I strongly advocate and encourage to talk to others about topics you may not fully agree on.

Most importantly, for these pockets of gray, these are where the real stories and discussions lie. This is where conflict occurs but both sides must be considered. This is where you can bring out the best, because at the height of it all is the realism. For where else does humanity come from except for when we are at the moments where our best and worst equal one another? For where can the moments of beauty in life truly shine if nothing dark sheds light on them? And how can we amplify these moments, if we do not give voices to all perspectives, and not just the majority? Open up. Don't hesitate to talk to others.


From discussion, this also means tending to those engaged in a "win-lose" mentality. If your opinion is received to the other side, don't gloat it in front of the other's face, as it is childish, while for those on the opposite end, just because your initial views after the discussion was because you were dumb. You are not dumb, nor should your entire character be defined by the previous viewpoint. This is something I feel as if the world needs to do a better job on.

Coming back all to where this started, in my second blog post. I could easily delete it, yet I have no plans for doing so. The only way it could disappear is if I decide to place my blog on private for whatever reason may occur in the future. Yet I won't. Maybe my views on certain topics may continue changing, as did the makeup post. But all in all, we must continue discussing, and know we will continually change and grow.


What is one opinion you used to have which has now changed? Do you like talking to individuals from other view points, and what are the pros and cons of communicating with them?

16 comments:

  1. I can relate to this post very strongly. For basically all my life, I have been a very black-or-white person. It's either right or wrong, and morally, I would still agree with that, but as far as things like makeup and reading preferences, etc. I have come to realize that every person finds meaning in different things.

    I detest the feeling of makeup on my face. I feel like I'm being suffocated, and because I disliked it, I decided that it was inherently bad and that anyone who used it wasn't accepting themselves. XD Oh silly me. Guess what? My sister became a makeup artist. She is passionate about it, and she is incredible at what she does (feel free to check her out at bethanyyackelbeauty.com). I came to learn that makeup can be good or bad, depending on who wields it. There are definitely some cases of people who are too insecure to let their real face shine, and then there are others who simply regard their face as a canvas and makeup the paint.

    I wish I could go back in time and just tell my younger self to stop being so close minded, but the fact that I wish that also encourages me because it means I've come a long way.

    Lovely post, m'dear! :)

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    1. I’m glad this post resonated with you, Evangeline. ^.^ I‘m similar in the sense of my morals being very black and white, although it’s so important to look at the gray which arises too, and I do agree people do find meaning in differing things.

      I looked at your sister’s site, and wow, she’s wonderful at doing makeup. I wish I had a hand in applying eyeliner and concealer blending as good as she does. It’s somewhat disjointing too to see people who constantly wear makeup just one day go without it— the change is insane. I like how you describe it for some, makeup and the face as paint and a canvas. It’s a good similarity.

      True!!! We mostly learn after encountering resistance. No matter how much we could change the way we encountered it and ponder about the changes, we don’t know for sure what could have happened, so it’s better to go with what we’ve got now. If more change needs to happen, then the moments will arise.

      Thank you, m’dear. :)

      xoxo Abigail Lennah

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  2. This is so beautiful, it's strange how life and experiences can change so much of our perspectives.

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    1. Change and interaction to reach an understanding IS one of the beauties in life, indeed!

      xoxo Abigail Lennah

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  3. Isn't it interesting to see how our perspectives change over time? Loved reading your thoughts on this, Abby.

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    1. It is quite interesting. Thank you, Grace Anne dear.

      xoxo Abigail Lennah

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  4. One of the things I find most interesting in life is how people interact and change and then how their interactions change over the years as they change and grow. It's also one of the most beautiful things, I think, and I love reading your thoughts on this topic. I agree: differences in people and opinions aren't bad as an absolute; they can be so inspiring and make for great respectful conversations. And, like, if we didn't grow and if people weren't different, how boring would that be?

    Lovely post, Abigail. :)

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    1. People do change— they can change for the better or worse. I remember going on Instagram and seeing this one post which stated how hate is taught. It’s an interesting concept to think that we’re all still malleable and we could still tip one way or another. And I love watching debates, the respectful ones (as the ones who include yelling just become a bloodbath FAST). Life would be pretty boring without any sort of diversity whatsoever.

      Thank you, Annie-Jo. ^.^

      xoxo Abigail Lennah

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  5. Talking to people who believe differently then you, even if they don't change your view on something completely, can definitely expand your thoughts on the issue and help you to treat people you disagree with with respect. When I was younger I was quite intolerant of people who disagreed with me on some issues. Now, even if I don't agree with something someone else believes, I can at least see WHY they believe what they do. I think I've definitely grown as a person, especially over the last year, and I'll keep growing, and expanding my circle of friends has definitely helped me do that. :)
    Great post!

    ~Lydia~ <3

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    1. I think it’s important to understand why, for sure. I remember how someone I knew decided to read the three main religious texts because they wanted to understand the reasonings of each perspectives to see their viewpoints, and it’s fascinating to listen to them speak about what they learned. I think treating others with respect in regards to constructing view points is highly important, especially with how the mentality is today of just black and white. <3 I’m so happy to hear from you again, Lydia! It’s great to hear your voice again in the blogging world.

      xoxo Abigail Lennah

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  6. It's crazy how much our mindsets change over time, especially depending on what we surround ourselves with. I love how you said diversity is the spice of life. That is so true! I honestly feel a little sad for those who don't get to experience that, because it adds so much color to life :)

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    1. Surroundings definitely play a big factor. It’s funny because over the past several years I’ve started to form my own thoughts and opinions about current events and what not, and it will be interesting to see whether they’ll change (if at all) once I start heading to college next year. It’ll be fun to meet everyone, though!!!

      xoxo Abigail Lennah

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  7. How are your posts always so amazing????? Like genuine question here??? I loved this post so much! I think in elementary I was in a bit of bubble and these past two years in middle I've really realized that! My middle school is a lot bigger and so different!

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    1. I ponder about these kinds of questions before bed??? If not, I’m either busy plotting my novel or trying to solve a question in my head (mostly regarding concepts or problems). It’ll be interesting too once you get into high school— it’ll make middle school seem like a bubble. I suppose the same could be said for high school right now, but I don’t think the change is as apparent yet!!!

      xoxo Abigail Lennah

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  8. I too, have changed a lot and used to have a more stubborn view that my opinion is right. However, it wasn't really people around me who changed this but the internet. I became exposed to videos of different people with so many different beliefs. And nowadays I am exposed to more cultures than I have ever seen before.

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    1. The Internet is such a great resource for being exposed to other viewpoints, for sure. It’s a double-edged sword, though— on one hand, you have these great discussion but simultaneously it’s so easy for just words to be sprouted from everywhere??? I love being exposed to new cultures though. They’re truly fascinating.

      xoxo Abigail Lennah

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